When people ask me what it means to be fearless, I smile. It can seem like a rather complex subject, but what does it really mean? Simply put, it means letting love in.
I’m not talking about romantic love here. Letting love into our lives in any capacity naturally pushes fear out. Fear cannot coexist with love. Love conquers all, or does it?
Take me, for example. I was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer at 33 years old. I had fear coming out of me from all directions during that time, but I decided to let it all go and to choose love instead. Love from my family, friends, pets and God. I wanted to have the best chance of survival and didn’t want to let fear or my cancer win. Do you know what happened? I won. Coincidence? I’ll never know. But one thing is for sure, I will never let fear dictate my life. Love is the only thing worth living for. Having faced my death, I now know this first hand.
Love and fear are the most powerful human emotions and both have the power to transform our lives if we let them. Choosing the type of life you’d rather live is what it’s all about. Do you want more fear or do you want to be fearless?
We have to focus on letting love in, from anywhere. We need to stop being stubborn! We need to open ourselves up to allow love to come in whether it’s from a stranger, a loved one, our dog or our doctor. We must allow love in and then watch the magic happen.
In addition to letting love in, give it away! Give free smiles to people, lend a hand to someone in need, give your store clerk a compliment or give someone a hug in a time of need. We all need love, so give it away and then watch it come back to you!
Once we make the conscious choice to allow love into our lives, the more fearless we become. We start choosing love over fear more and more and we start to notice how good that makes us feel. We are going for things that used to scare us, we are taking much needed time away for ourselves and we are no longer letting fear dictate our lives. Be bold, fear less and love more.