Visualizing your future

There’s a lot of emphasis lately on the future and having “vision”. Companies have vision statements and definitely think well into the future when they are strategy planning. While I prefer to live more in-the-moment, I can appreciate why having a vision is so important.

Visions and dreams help us to have a focal point, something to reach for. I think it’s super important to have dreams and goals that push us to be better everyday. I’m a life-long learner and will always be going after something, whether it’s a new skill, certification or goal. 

Visualizing your future is just another tool to help with momentum. Vision boards can be a great tool that you look at everyday. Visualization exercises, however, are what I like to help people with most. 

These exercises should be done from a standpoint of already having what it is you desire. Instead of visualizing the future you want to have, pretend you’re already there. NOW visualize your life from that place. It changes the whole thing. Visualize your life as the person who’s already living your dream, see what that feels like, what things is that future you concerned with, what are their dreams? This puts us in a mindset of abundance and not lack. If we dream about what we don’t have but wish we did…we won’t get anywhere. If we visualize our future already being in the shoes of ourselves after having reached our current goal, then we can attract more of what we aspire to be. 

I’m telling ya, it’s a game changer to approach your visualizations like this! Give it a try!

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Visualizing your future

There’s a lot of emphasis lately on the future and having “vision”. Companies have vision statements and definitely think well into the future when they are strategy planning. While I prefer to live more in-the-moment, I can appreciate why having a vision is so important.

Visions and dreams help us to have a focal point, something to reach for. I think it’s super important to have dreams and goals that push us to be better everyday. I’m a life-long learner and will always be going after something, whether it’s a new skill, certification or goal. 

Visualizing your future is just another tool to help with momentum. Vision boards can be a great tool that you look at everyday. Visualization exercises, however, are what I like to help people with most. 

These exercises should be done from a standpoint of already having what it is you desire. Instead of visualizing the future you want to have, pretend you’re already there. NOW visualize your life from that place. It changes the whole thing. Visualize your life as the person who’s already living your dream, see what that feels like, what things is that future you concerned with, what are their dreams? This puts us in a mindset of abundance and not lack. If we dream about what we don’t have but wish we did…we won’t get anywhere. If we visualize our future already being in the shoes of ourselves after having reached our current goal, then we can attract more of what we aspire to be. 

I’m telling ya, it’s a game changer to approach your visualizations like this! Give it a try!

Visualizing your future

There’s a lot of emphasis lately on the future and having “vision”. Companies have vision statements and definitely think well into the future when they are strategy planning. While I prefer to live more in-the-moment, I can appreciate why having a vision is so important.

Visions and dreams help us to have a focal point, something to reach for. I think it’s super important to have dreams and goals that push us to be better everyday. I’m a life-long learner and will always be going after something, whether it’s a new skill, certification or goal. 

Visualizing your future is just another tool to help with momentum. Vision boards can be a great tool that you look at everyday. Visualization exercises, however, are what I like to help people with most. 

These exercises should be done from a standpoint of already having what it is you desire. Instead of visualizing the future you want to have, pretend you’re already there. NOW visualize your life from that place. It changes the whole thing. Visualize your life as the person who’s already living your dream, see what that feels like, what things is that future you concerned with, what are their dreams? This puts us in a mindset of abundance and not lack. If we dream about what we don’t have but wish we did…we won’t get anywhere. If we visualize our future already being in the shoes of ourselves after having reached our current goal, then we can attract more of what we aspire to be. 

I’m telling ya, it’s a game changer to approach your visualizations like this! Give it a try!

Let’s talk about anxiety- part 3

So far, we’ve talked about overcoming anxiety and stress through decluttering and simplifying our lives and also through nutrition but now for my favorite…..mindfulness and mindset! This topic is such a passion of mind and it is SO POWERFUL. The results you will get from this step alone will be profound and I encourage you to keep a journal if you’re into that sort of thing, just to document your progress.

Mindfulness is the quality of being conscious or aware of something, but in particular, the present moment. Focusing our awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting our feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations. It’s not being reactive. But, really it’s just awareness. 

Buddha said “The mind is everything. What you think you become.” Jesus said “Be very careful about what you think. Your thoughts run your life.” (Proverbs 4:23). Einstein said “Everything is energy and that’s all there is to it. Match the frequency of the reality you want and you cannot help but get that reality. It can be no other way. This is not philosophy. This is physics.” All of these quotes confirm that our mindset plays a monumental role in our life and how we perceive things. I can vouch from personal experience, that until I changed my mindset, I did not see a complete shift in my own life. My anxiety did not start to dissipate until I got my mind right. And yes, getting your mind right can actually improve brain chemistry.

So, how do you do this? Well, it takes work, I’m not going to lie. Get reading, get meditating, get journaling, surround yourself with positive people who view life the same way you want to view life, stop watching crappy television full of drama. Don’t expect things to happen overnight, but if you are diligent in your efforts, you can surely see changes within 30 days as I did. I was relentless in my pursuit of happiness, calm and finding a way to keep my anxiety at bay. Make a commitment to yourself and stick with it- this is key!

I made some pretty hefty changes and completely overhauled my life in order to come to a more peaceful and happy place. Sometimes it means letting go of people and relationships that don’t serve your highest good. Sometimes it means saying no to foods that you know aren’t supporting your body. Sometimes it means saying no to social engagements so you can stay home and do self-care. It’s not selfish to do these things, it’s sometimes just what needs to be done in order to get your mindset right. It’s a high form of self-care that you deserve. No one can make changes for us, we have to be the ones who want change.

Sometimes it’s easier to stay in our holes and be miserable because that’s what feels safe to us or it seems too overwhelming to give that up. That will not serve you in the long run. Going out of our comfort zones always brings amazing things, that I can promise you. So what are you waiting for? Join the mass amount of people who are choosing to up-level their lives and not settle for a life of mediocre-ness, shame, control and high stress! Get your mind right. Make the change.

 If you need more help with this, sign up for coaching with me.

How I stay sane

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Let me start by saying it takes effort. It takes conscious intention but it isn’t “work” once you develop habits around living this way. Also, don’t shoot for perfection — it’s not real.

I learned LOTS about living the right way when I had cancer. I prayed and meditated my way through that whole year and during those meditations, I got LOTS of answers and LOTS of divine downloads as I like to call them.

These “downloads” consisted of tips that came through in such a strong way that I had no doubt about the message. They were answers about life and how I was supposed to move forward and live it. Not only live it, but live it the way I should have been living it all those years prior! But, I would have to let go, surrender and say goodbye to the old me and my old ways of thinking first. I give my tough love approach below because I love you!

Here are my most precious tips that bring value to my life:

1. Make time for self-care. Self-care is anything that takes care of YOU. Yep, just YOU. It’s not selfish, it’s a necessity. Let me repeat that, it’s a necessity. Self-care is the act of doing things that fill up your cup, bring you joy, allow you to rest or regroup. *essential for your health.

2. Eat whole, unprocessed foods. It should be a no-brainer, but apparently it’s not. Basically, stop eating crap. Do you know how many people I help with nutrition who just aren’t willing to do this? It is single-handedly one of the most effective ways to take your life to the next level! Eat foods as close to their natural state as possible. Do the work to find out which foods aren’t helping you and stop eating them. (an elimination diet helps). 80% of your health = proper nutrition and the other 20% = things like exercise, self-care, community, relationships, etc. Find healthier replacements for foods you consider cheat foods. Cut out dairy, it’s not made for humans. Cut out refined sugar (you won’t crave it after 3 days). Limit alcohol. Remember, I love you! *essential for your health.

3. Move your body. Find a way to move your body daily. If you don’t have time to workout (I don’t want to hear about it because if I, as a single mom who works full time can do it, so can you. And yeah….it’s hard). Do anything. Walk, take the stairs, park far away from the store. What I do specifically: I walk for 10 minutes, twice a day at work on breaks. I take the stairs every time I can. I do squats at my desk and pushups against my kitchen counter. I make time to walk 4 miles once a week on a weekend morning and maybe again during the week if I don’t have a conference call in the morning. I do a 10 minute HIIT workout 3 times a week, yoga at night occasionally and that’s it. Little bits here and there, when I have time (and sometimes I’m not successful). The rest is all nutrition, eating right and striving to drink 2 liters of water a day. And…since I’m eating like Jesus 80% of the time, I can afford to have a vegan/gluten free macaroon here and there. 🙂 *essential for your health.

4. Self-Development. I love self-help stuff. I think it’s amazing, helpful and allows you to expand beyond your self-made limitations. Also, I read that all successful people do self-development so I started doing it for that very reason. I listen to 2 hours of podcasts during my daily commute time. I watch YouTube videos and read books. It’s awesome. Spiritual growth is cool. 

5. I’m grateful and mindful. I write in my gratitude journal daily, start each prayer without asking for something but saying thank you for something instead, I meditate and I’m mindful of my actions and attitude. If I notice I’m not in my “flow” state then I make some changes. I choose only funny or uplifting things to watch because your mind takes cues from what you watch, I try to stay away from gossip (I know, it’s hard, we all do it), and I surround myself with awesome high-vibe people. When I’m in a bad mood, I change it by listening to a good song, or watching something funny or being grateful. Works like a charm. If I start to feel like I am getting stressed, I adjust my reaction (meditation teaches you how to do this by re-wiring your brain which in turn, makes you a more peaceful, less reactive person). I love you! *essential for your health.

I don’t want to look back on my life and have regrets so I try my best to live each day with enthusiasm. I do the things I want to do NOW, visit the people I want to see NOW, and focus on the things that are important to me NOW. Who knows if you’ll get the chance to do them later, you know?

Bonus Tip– don’t overschedule and overload your life with too much. Say no more often. Leave room in your schedule for time to laugh and chill. It’s imperative. 

There’s my blueprint! Hope it helps.

xoxo – Heather

The stress solution

Is there such a thing? I think there can be but it takes work. We just don’t live in the same world we did 25 years ago.

Things are a bit crazy now.

Heads buried in phones, less human interaction and less outdoor play.

What’s really sad is that our kids aren’t even getting the same life we did. They won’t know what it’s like to get bored because why would they…everything is at their fingertips. They are even taught on iPads in school!

Our schedules are jammed packed now that it takes two incomes to support a family…for the most part. Activities galore, no time for rest and little family time to just be together.

Simplifying your life includes letting go of things that don’t add value. If you are too busy being stressed about driving your family around to a zillion activities, then let go of some. Focus on things you can do at home or as a family instead…..your kids won’t be ruined. More kids are ridden with anxiety now than ever before. Too much pressure from school and too much pressure from society! I can’t stand it.

Let’s all focus on the now. Right now. It’s all that matters anyways.

Less stuff, less junk, less shopping, more loving, more cooking, more lounging.

xo

Heather

 

 

Mother’s Day Love

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Happy Mother’s Day to all of the moms out there – you are amazing! Happy Mother’s Day to my incredible mom, who set the best example for me as I figure out my own way through motherhood. It’s the best job in the world! Thank you, Ava, for choosing me as your mom. I love you!

xo,

Heather

Minimalism – what’s the hype?

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Minimalism has become the next “people going vegan.” It’s trendy, it’s hot and there’s a reason: it’s awesome! It created one of the most pivotal shifts in my life and I want to share that with you, because I know you’re curious! I get asked about it as frequently as I get asked about recipes/food. *I will try to do a YouTube video on this soon.

Minimalism is learning to live with less. But, so much more!!!

Its philosophy is based from living with less and removing things from your life that don’t add value….sometimes that even means letting go of people who don’t add value to your life. 

Ever hear of a book called “The life-changing magic of tidying up” by Marie Kondo? She started a revolution with her book about de-cluttering and thus created a frenzy of people who wanted to become minimalists. I will point out that minimalism isn’t all or nothing, “I have to sleep on the floor and only own 5 shirts”…no, it doesn’t HAVE to mean that unless you want that….it’s de-cluttering your life in a way that works for you.

Here are some amazing benefits of minimalism:

  1. Clarity of mind
  2. Less stress/anxiety
  3. Better Health
  4. More Freedom
  5. More Time
  6. Greater Purpose
  7. Extra Money
  8. Family Closeness
  9. Easier to Clean
  10. Good for the Environment

When you begin to incorporate a more minimalist life, you start by taking inventory of what you own. Marie Kondo suggests going room by room (start with your closet), and putting things into 3 piles: one pile to trash, one pile to keep and one pile to donate. The pile you keep should only be things that bring you joy or that you really need. Learning the difference between needs and wants will get you everywhere. It starts to affect your shopping habits too, which is awesome!

Sentimental items that aren’t doing anything for you but taking up space should be donated. What?? Yep. She suggests taking a photo of the item so you can still “have” the sentimental value, which is genius because really, what’s the difference from looking at a photo of something you don’t use from looking at something you don’t use in person? The moral of the story is, you don’t use it so get rid of it.

I cannot tell you how LIBERATING and ADDICTING it is to start living this way. It completely changed my life!! I started in 2014 when I was pregnant, when I started to hear about Marie Kondo’s book and started researching on my own. My first thought was “yes, this resonates with me” followed by “how on Earth am I going to be a minimalist with a baby?” But, I figured out ways to do it.

It feels SO GOOD getting rid of “stuff” that isn’t bringing us joy or happiness. Material possessions do not bring us happiness, happiness is found within. Does this mean you can’t keep that Louis Vuitton purse? Of course it doesn’t, keep that beauty….but only if you actually use it.

I noticed a difference in my frame of mind instantly, once I started going through my apartment and downsizing. You feel the calm energy of the space open up, you feel lighter and it actually affects your mindset and brain! It spreads to other areas of your life, like your schedule, your activities and work. You don’t feel as stressed and I think it definitely has connections to feng shui principles.

This post could go on forever, I am SO passionate about minimalism. Do you think you’ll give it a try? Do you have any questions about it that I can help answer?

xo

Heather

 

 

 

 

 

Spring detox ideas

Hi! Happy Spring.

Why do we always want to clean in Spring? Is it the fresh beginnings and new growth happening in nature that inspires us to start new?

I find it’s the perfect time to set ourselves up for the rest of the year and let go of all of the old, heavy energy of Winter. I try to practice these habits all year but here are some of my favorite Spring detox ideas below:

  1. Clear out your clutter. I’m not sure if you know this about me but I’m a huge fan of minimalism. I got on the bandwagon in 2014 and haven’t looked back since. It has changed my life on so many levels. I’ll go deeper on this topic in another post but for now lets focus on cleaning out our closets, cupboards, garage and any other areas with junk. Throw out all of that junk and items you want to donate and let’s march forward (get it….it’s March), and let’s bask in the lightness it brings.
  2. Do a 1-week food cleanse. I believe every Spring (and any other time of year you need), we should give our bodies a break from poor eating habits, bad digestion and wasted energy. I’m a huge fan of food detoxes because really, who enjoys starving? Eating plant-based for one week is my favorite suggestion for everyone since it re-calibrates your digestion, it lightens the load on your digestive system and it cleans you out from the inside out. Make sure to take a good probiotic while you’re doing this.
  3. Go on an adventure and do something fun. We’ve just been stuck indoors for how many months during Winter? Now it’s time to get outside and do something fun! Go somewhere, do something that makes you happy and really enjoy yourself because life is short.
  4. Do something outside of your comfort zone. I am a HUGE FAN of doing this. It will change your life on a deep level, overcoming fears and pushing yourself beyond your own self-limiting boundaries. Do it without thinking, just do it. That’s how I do it, because by nature, I’d want to be scared and hide but now I just force myself to do things that scare me and not look back.

I hope these ideas inspire you to take some action and start your Spring off with a bang.

xo- Heather