Are you “too busy” ?

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Are you “too busy” ?

What does that mean anyways….too busy. Why did this become a thing? I feel like it really only becomes a thing once you have kids or if you work in corporate america. I only say that because those are the only two situations that have ever caused me to utter those words.

Then I stumbled upon simple living. Simple living is a concept that came to me during meditation when I was going through cancer. It kind of popped up out of nowhere and stood out to me. The charm of this thought stuck with me. Simple living. What was this exactly? And, how did it relate with being busy?

My spirit was telling me I needed this. I was all ears because I knew that after my treatment was over, I wanted a different life than what I had before.

My life before was a rat race. Same old stupid stuff everyday that was leaving me dry and miserable. Working full time, not much of a social life, didn’t like where I was living, didn’t like where I was working, didn’t like much at all, actually.

I always had yearning for something different. Something more simple.

So, one day I really started to think of what that might be. I immediately imagined moving to some tropical place like Costa Rica or Bali and teaching yoga and living out of a backpack. It was so NOT me, but I thought the idea sounded fun.

Then my treatment ended and I decided to travel to Europe to see some family and figure out my next move.

I ended up moving back to Southern California and got a full time job since I had to, gotta pay the bills, right? But this time, I was going to live differently. I decided to only make plans with people I really wanted to hang out with. I didn’t over-schedule my life. I only bought the furniture I really needed. I had more nights without TV, just reading or doing yoga or meditating…. and I liked it.

4 years later and I’ve still honed this skill of saying no more, not over-scheduling my life and limiting what I spend my time doing.

I feel like when we are “too busy” we are hiding from something. Why is it so awful just being? What’s so bad about just hanging out with ourselves or our families? Are we afraid of what we may find if we don’t live up to what society thinks is important?

 

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How I stay sane

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Let me start by saying it takes effort. It takes conscious intention but it isn’t “work” once you develop habits around living this way. Also, don’t shoot for perfection — it’s not real.

I learned LOTS about living the right way when I had cancer. I prayed and meditated my way through that whole year and during those meditations, I got LOTS of answers and LOTS of divine downloads as I like to call them.

These “downloads” consisted of tips that came through in such a strong way that I had no doubt about the message. They were answers about life and how I was supposed to move forward and live it. Not only live it, but live it the way I should have been living it all those years prior! But, I would have to let go, surrender and say goodbye to the old me and my old ways of thinking first. I give my tough love approach below because I love you!

Here are my most precious tips that bring value to my life:

1. Make time for self-care. Self-care is anything that takes care of YOU. Yep, just YOU. It’s not selfish, it’s a necessity. Let me repeat that, it’s a necessity. Self-care is the act of doing things that fill up your cup, bring you joy, allow you to rest or regroup. *essential for your health.

2. Eat whole, unprocessed foods. It should be a no-brainer, but apparently it’s not. Basically, stop eating crap. Do you know how many people I help with nutrition who just aren’t willing to do this? It is single-handedly one of the most effective ways to take your life to the next level! Eat foods as close to their natural state as possible. Do the work to find out which foods aren’t helping you and stop eating them. (an elimination diet helps). 80% of your health = proper nutrition and the other 20% = things like exercise, self-care, community, relationships, etc. Find healthier replacements for foods you consider cheat foods. Cut out dairy, it’s not made for humans. Cut out refined sugar (you won’t crave it after 3 days). Limit alcohol. Remember, I love you! *essential for your health.

3. Move your body. Find a way to move your body daily. If you don’t have time to workout (I don’t want to hear about it because if I, as a single mom who works full time can do it, so can you. And yeah….it’s hard). Do anything. Walk, take the stairs, park far away from the store. What I do specifically: I walk for 10 minutes, twice a day at work on breaks. I take the stairs every time I can. I do squats at my desk and pushups against my kitchen counter. I make time to walk 4 miles once a week on a weekend morning and maybe again during the week if I don’t have a conference call in the morning. I do a 10 minute HIIT workout 3 times a week, yoga at night occasionally and that’s it. Little bits here and there, when I have time (and sometimes I’m not successful). The rest is all nutrition, eating right and striving to drink 2 liters of water a day. And…since I’m eating like Jesus 80% of the time, I can afford to have a vegan/gluten free macaroon here and there. 🙂 *essential for your health.

4. Self-Development. I love self-help stuff. I think it’s amazing, helpful and allows you to expand beyond your self-made limitations. Also, I read that all successful people do self-development so I started doing it for that very reason. I listen to 2 hours of podcasts during my daily commute time. I watch YouTube videos and read books. It’s awesome. Spiritual growth is cool. 

5. I’m grateful and mindful. I write in my gratitude journal daily, start each prayer without asking for something but saying thank you for something instead, I meditate and I’m mindful of my actions and attitude. If I notice I’m not in my “flow” state then I make some changes. I choose only funny or uplifting things to watch because your mind takes cues from what you watch, I try to stay away from gossip (I know, it’s hard, we all do it), and I surround myself with awesome high-vibe people. When I’m in a bad mood, I change it by listening to a good song, or watching something funny or being grateful. Works like a charm. If I start to feel like I am getting stressed, I adjust my reaction (meditation teaches you how to do this by re-wiring your brain which in turn, makes you a more peaceful, less reactive person). I love you! *essential for your health.

I don’t want to look back on my life and have regrets so I try my best to live each day with enthusiasm. I do the things I want to do NOW, visit the people I want to see NOW, and focus on the things that are important to me NOW. Who knows if you’ll get the chance to do them later, you know?

Bonus Tip– don’t overschedule and overload your life with too much. Say no more often. Leave room in your schedule for time to laugh and chill. It’s imperative. 

There’s my blueprint! Hope it helps.

xoxo – Heather

The stress solution

Is there such a thing? I think there can be but it takes work. We just don’t live in the same world we did 25 years ago.

Things are a bit crazy now.

Heads buried in phones, less human interaction and less outdoor play.

What’s really sad is that our kids aren’t even getting the same life we did. They won’t know what it’s like to get bored because why would they…everything is at their fingertips. They are even taught on iPads in school!

Our schedules are jammed packed now that it takes two incomes to support a family…for the most part. Activities galore, no time for rest and little family time to just be together.

Simplifying your life includes letting go of things that don’t add value. If you are too busy being stressed about driving your family around to a zillion activities, then let go of some. Focus on things you can do at home or as a family instead…..your kids won’t be ruined. More kids are ridden with anxiety now than ever before. Too much pressure from school and too much pressure from society! I can’t stand it.

Let’s all focus on the now. Right now. It’s all that matters anyways.

Less stuff, less junk, less shopping, more loving, more cooking, more lounging.

xo

Heather

 

 

Elderflower Gimlet Cocktail Recipe

Elderflower Gimlet

When this mama needs an adult beverage, this is my go-to cocktail! The Elderflower Gimlet. Please do make this for your next dinner party…..you won’t be sorry!

Recipe:

2 oz. Hendrick’s Gin
1 oz. St. Germain elderflower liqueur
1 oz. fresh-squeezed lime juice

– Make the cocktail in a shaker or mixing glass with all ingredients
– Add ice
– Shake, shake, shake
– Strain into chilled glass
– Garnish with lime

xo,

Heather

p.s. let me know how you like it!